Can we talk about haters for a minute?
What’s the deal?
You’re feeling good. You’ve worked hard to accomplish a goal that you set for yourself. All you want to do is celebrate with the people around you and yet, someone doesn’t seem that jazzed to celebrate with you. Someone you thought would be happy for you, isn’t. You thought this person would share in your joy because if you’re doing well then everyone around you benefits, right?
Apparently, they didn’t get that memo.
And so, they’re less than happy for you. The strain on your relationship becomes apparent when you share your good news.
Yuck. So, what do you do?
If you’re a people pleaser like me, you relinquish your happiness. Maybe not all of it, but just a little. You know, tone it down so that they’re more comfortable. Admit that what you accomplished isn’t “that great” so you can situate your butt back down next to theirs on that earthly stump upon which they perch.
Aren’t we tired of doing that? I can honestly say, for the first time in my life, that I am.
And so, I think it’s time that we declare ourselves Queen.
Queen of our own worlds – our kingdoms that we’ve worked so hard to build. Rulers of our own lives. We are the ones who know best for ourselves and those we love around us. And anything, from here on out, that we do that we consider successful, requires everyone who resides in our kingdom to celebrate it.
If they don’t? Well, sensitive types, here’s the tough part. We must find a way to banish them. Maybe not from our lives forever, but from our psyches, for sure. We have to crank up that drawbridge and not allow them in. We, as Queens, sit on thrones, not toadstools, and if they’re not interested nor willing to join us in high places, then they leave us no choice.
In order for this to work, you have to make sure that there is room in your kingdom for a lot of other Queens and their thrones. You don’t want to end up alone at your party. So, seek out other Queens. In fact, surround yourself with them. A true Queen respects other Queens (and, oh, okay, Kings, too). So, we will celebrate everyone’s successes – without judgment, without malice, without envy. There’s no reason for any of that negativity, because we are secure in the knowledge that success around us only brings us all more success.
You simply cannot be both a hater and a Queen.
So, haters, be warned. If you can’t share in the satisfaction and joy of those around you, you will be locked out. This is a choice you make.
They say, “if you don’t have haters, you’re not in the game”. I get it. There will always be haters. But, I want to be in the game, big time, and be happy. The only way to do this is to not let them knock us off our thrones. They’ll be there, but we’ll be too busy ruling our kingdoms with other fabulous Queens to care.