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When You’re Addicted to Self Criticism

lkgaines 7 Comments self confidence, SOL

Shannon Skipper writes: I fell off the wagon and it hurt. I never thought of myself as having an addictive personality, but then I grew older and wiser and got a clue. It turns out addiction comes in all […]

20 Apr

lkgaines 0 Comment SOL, testimonials

A woman told me recently that she really wanted to come to SOL more often, but it made her feel guilty because she didn’t usually go out by herself in the evenings to have fun. First, let me say, I […]

26 Feb

lkgaines 1 Comment fearless

Fear. It’s a real dream killer, isn’t it? Fear strips the confidence right out of you and replaces it with judgment and anger and self-loathing. It tells you that you’re not good enough and makes sure that you […]

26 Sep

lkgaines 0 Comment SOL, testimonials

Shannon Skipper/ SOL Sister Monday nights writes: Tonight was a night for letting a lot of things go. Tonight was about what I needed to be my best self, my true self. Tonight, I was able to set my […]

19 Sep

lkgaines 0 Comment simplify life

To simplify means to say “no” more to what weakens us and “yes” more to what adds to our quality of life. For those of us who aren’t natural at “no” – hello? people pleasers? – we may need reminders. […]

19 Jun

lkgaines 0 Comment SOL

This incredible poem, by Oriah, has been around for almost a decade. It has come into my life many times, hitting me a different way each time. Never has it been more powerful and relevant than today when, for the […]

11 Apr

lkgaines 0 Comment simplify life

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how to remain happiest in daily life while achieving lofty, challenging goals. Here’s me at my best: running 2 businesses, hatching another, maintaining fulfilling relationships with the loves of my life, traveling, keeping […]

21 Jan

lkgaines 0 Comment self confidence, SOL

(adj.) [uhn-fuhk-wi-thuh-buh l] I’ve been thinking a lot about TAKING ACTION. More specifically, what we need to be doing to keep us in the right frame of mind – focused and inspired – to take action to get what […]

04 Oct

lkgaines 0 Comment be present, simplify life being in the moment, the power of now

Am I the only one freaking out that this year is going by too fast? I haven’t finished the second draft of my script, haven’t answered way too many emails, and didn’t finish that book. In fact, I still have […]

18 Sep

lkgaines 0 Comment fearless, self confidence

Can we talk about haters for a minute? What’s the deal? You’re feeling good. You’ve worked hard to accomplish a goal that you set for yourself. All you want to do is celebrate with the people around you and yet, […]

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When You’re Addicted to Self Criticism

The Benefits of SOL

Dear Fear

Setting Myself Free

10 Ways to Simplify Your Schedule

A Poem: The Invitation

10 Things to Let Go – in Pursuit of the Good Life

My New Favorite Word

How to Calm Down and Find More Time

Declare Yourself Queen